| 00:00:00 | Well, good afternoon. |
| 00:00:07 | I am Cindy, your host of the Kindness Advantage, where in 10 minutes or less, I will give |
| 00:00:14 | you ways to incorporate kindness into your everyday life, business and organization. |
| 00:00:21 | And today, the day of love, happy Valentine's Day, we are going to talk about how to be |
| 00:00:27 | kind to yourself. |
| 00:00:30 | Now, when we talk about kindness, we always, I think, jump to the conclusion that it needs |
| 00:00:39 | to be to somebody else, whether that is a stranger or a loved one or a friend. |
| 00:00:46 | But I'm here to tell you that you need to start with yourself first. |
| 00:00:51 | And when you're kind to yourself first, you can find it easier to be kind to others. |
| 00:00:59 | So like I said in the intro, ways to be kind to yourself. |
| 00:01:05 | And the reason we should be kind to ourselves, well, when we are kind to ourselves, we are |
| 00:01:11 | actually creating that self-love. |
| 00:01:13 | Now, when I was growing up, was never really taught about self-love. |
| 00:01:19 | And I don't think back in the early 80s when I was a little one, that self-love was really |
| 00:01:27 | expressed as a need or a desire. |
| 00:01:32 | But when you are kind to yourself and showing yourself self-love, you are also encouraging |
| 00:01:40 | yourself to be happy and to be positive. |
| 00:01:45 | And those things can be amazing for your entire life. |
| 00:01:53 | So things can happen greatly when you start to focus on yourself. |
| 00:01:58 | So what doesn't need to be kind to yourself? |
| 00:02:03 | Number one, have patience. |
| 00:02:07 | So I was some people that know my story. |
| 00:02:10 | I was in a car accident at the end of 2018. |
| 00:02:14 | And I feel like one of the lessons from that car accident was patience because I was not |
| 00:02:21 | a patient individual, not with other people, and that was myself. |
| 00:02:25 | So having patience, being patient with yourself, allowing grace for things to just be as |
| 00:02:34 | they are, is a way to extend kindness to yourself. |
| 00:02:39 | The other way to extend kindness to yourself is to be honest with yourself, right? |
| 00:02:44 | We sometimes like to measure ourselves against other people. |
| 00:02:49 | And that's really not the best thing for us when we want to be kind to ourselves. |
| 00:02:55 | So being honest with ourselves and expressing that towards our self is really, really important. |
| 00:03:04 | Another thing is to stop apologizing. |
| 00:03:06 | And I am speaking to all the girls up there, ladies. |
| 00:03:10 | Raise your hands because we apologize for everything. |
| 00:03:15 | And it doesn't even mean that, I think it's just an impulse that we say, "Oh, I'm sorry. |
| 00:03:21 | I'm sorry." |
| 00:03:22 | You know, so how do you switch that narrative? |
| 00:03:26 | So let's say you are late and you're like, "I'm so sorry. |
| 00:03:31 | I'm late." |
| 00:03:32 | So maybe say, "Thank you so much for waiting." |
| 00:03:37 | Isn't that better? |
| 00:03:38 | That's being kind to yourself too. |
| 00:03:40 | How about instead of saying, "Maybe this is at a workplace," right? |
| 00:03:45 | "Sorry to bother you." |
| 00:03:47 | Instead of saying that, maybe say, "Do you have a minute to chat?" |
| 00:03:52 | I always like to, when I even when I have a phone call or a Zoom or a meeting planned and |
| 00:04:00 | scheduled, I always like to confirm that this is still a good time, right? |
| 00:04:04 | And that has nothing to do about apologizing. |
| 00:04:06 | But I feel like that's the same line of the, "Do you have a minute?" |
| 00:04:10 | Excuse me. |
| 00:04:11 | The other thing, you know, "Sorry, I don't get it." |
| 00:04:15 | Instead of saying, "Sorry, I don't get it." |
| 00:04:17 | Maybe say, "Hey, can you explain that?" |
| 00:04:20 | I don't understand it. |
| 00:04:21 | Can you explain that to me? |
| 00:04:23 | That is a way to be kind. |
| 00:04:25 | And stop apologizing. |
| 00:04:26 | All right. |
| 00:04:27 | And then finally, is just to be yourself. |
| 00:04:31 | People fall in love with authenticity. |
| 00:04:35 | And when you can be yourself, showing that kind of love towards yourself, that kindness |
| 00:04:43 | goes a long, long way. |
| 00:04:45 | So those are just a few things on how to be kind to you. |
| 00:04:51 | And the importance of that is that it makes us happier. |
| 00:04:55 | We are more positive people. |
| 00:04:57 | We have gratitude for things in our life. |
| 00:05:02 | So please take this succulent and really try to focus on being kind to yourself today |
| 00:05:10 | and the day of love and every day. |
| 00:05:13 | I also wanted to announce something very, very exciting. |
| 00:05:16 | Some of you know that I have launched a kindness apparel line. |
| 00:05:21 | And today we are launching a brand new shirt. |
| 00:05:24 | It is a limited edition just in time for the National Random Acts of Kindness Day, which |
| 00:05:32 | is on Friday, February 17. |
| 00:05:36 | But this day actually kicks off national kindness week. |
| 00:05:40 | So what better way than to offer a cool limited edition shirt? |
| 00:05:45 | Now, these shirts are only $20, which is a complete bargain. |
| 00:05:51 | And you can get free shipping with the code be kind free ship. |
| 00:05:55 | When you go to our website at bekindcrew.site. |
| 00:06:00 | That's S-I-T-E. |
| 00:06:02 | You can get one of these. |
| 00:06:04 | It looks like this. |
| 00:06:05 | It says be kind to all kinds, which I think is so much fun. |
| 00:06:10 | So you can grab that. |
| 00:06:18 | I'll actually add the link to the comment section where you are listening. |
| 00:06:19 | So you can grab that. |
| 00:06:20 | It is limited edition. |
| 00:06:22 | They come in all different sizes, again, only $20. |
| 00:06:25 | And the really cool thing about be kind crew, if you don't know. |
| 00:06:30 | So for every purchase, for one of our apparel pieces and we have a ton. |
| 00:06:35 | So go check out the site. |
| 00:06:36 | Find your favorite one. |
| 00:06:37 | If you don't like this. |
| 00:06:38 | I'm sure we have something. |
| 00:06:40 | But we send you a random act of kindness to do. |
| 00:06:44 | And then we do one on your behalf. |
| 00:06:47 | So every purchase spreads kindness. |
| 00:06:51 | How cool is that? |
| 00:06:52 | All right. |
| 00:06:53 | Well, thank you so much for tuning in and listening to me. |
| 00:06:57 | And just remember to really, really focus on you. |
| 00:07:00 | Be kind to you too. |
| 00:07:02 | I'll leave you with this. |
| 00:07:04 | Together, we can create weights of change through kindness. |
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The Kindness Advantage with Cindy Rowe
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