There are many traits that all cheaters share, and many others that aren’t necessarily good signs. Whether you’re a friend, a co-worker, a colleague, or a spouse, you’re likely going to run into some phenomenon that lets you know that your partner is either trying to cover up or is in the midst of an unplanned extramarital affair. Like many things in life, having a “trait” is simply a sign that you’re in a relationship. Let’s take a look at some of the common traits of all cheaters in relationships, based on cheatingbuster.com research.
Why It's Worth It to Check if Your Partner Is Cheating
First, it’s worth noting that there are actually a few risks that come with doing this research. If you’re truly seeking out the truth, you might want to stay as far away from your partner as possible. If you’re not in love with your partner, you may not want to spend the time you need to spend looking in their direction. Finding out the truth about your partner can be a really lonely and complicated process. So, unless you’re willing to be open and honest with yourself, you probably shouldn’t be spending time with them.
Second, it’s important to remember that you have every right to feel happy and content with who you are. This is especially true if you and your partner are in a long-term relationship. If you’re happy and fulfilled with who you are, then it doesn’t necessarily mean that your partner is going to suddenly start doing things differently. The best thing to do is wait and see. Once you know what’s up ahead, you can make better decisions together.
How does this trait impact relationships?
One of the most important things to remember about this whole thing is that your partner is going through a phase. It’s normal for people to be in the mood for extramarital sex at different points in their lives, and this is just one of them. It can also mean that your partner is in love with you. The closer your relationship is to the end, the harder it will be for you to feel as though you’re closing the door on the relationship. On the other hand, the closer your relationship is to get going, the easier it will be for you to feel as though you’re opening the door to new and exciting experiences.
How can you overcome this trait in a relationship?
One of the best ways to overcome this trait in a relationship is to stay as loyal to your partner as possible. Honestly, you’re probably better off not breaking the trust that you have with your partner at all. If you break this trust, your partner will feel bad and likely walk away from the relationship in frustration. So, you’re better off keeping your word and staying in touch with your partner on a daily basis.
Another way to overcome this trait in a relationship is to be patient. While it’s important to make every effort to get your affairs in order, you also have to make every effort to keep your partner happy. This means waiting a little bit longer for sex and more than a little bit longer for things to get resolved in your relationship. You don’t want to put the onus on your partner to solve this issue before it’s properly sorted out.
How can you get your partner to open up to you?
One of the best ways to get your partner to open up to you is to show up for dates. Whether you’re meeting up for a coffee date or picking up where you left off when you were supposed to be at work, show up for the date. Even if you don’t have anything planned for the date, it’s a good sign that your partner is open to hearing your ideas. If he or she isn’t, it may be worth giving it some more thought before saying “no” to the date.
Another way to get your partner to open up to you is to let go of the “should” issues. Your partner almost certainly has them too, and if you can just let go of the “should”s a little bit, you can have a much more productive conversation. There are a few things you can do to get your partner to start talking about things other than “should”s:
- Indulge your own curiosities. Ask your partner what he or she is interested in and why.
- Ask your partner what questions he or she has that you might be able to answer.
- Point out things that you think your partner might have omissions or misconceptions about.
Focus on the positive. You need to remember that this is a short-term relationship and you’re not going to be able to sustain this for very long. The key is to stay patient and let go of the “should”s a little bit and just allow your partner to speak his or her mind to your face.
Take a step back and take inventory. Are there things that you need to better yourself that you haven’t gotten around to? Are there things that your partner isn’t necessarily talking about? Are there things that you want to improve? It’s important to remember that this is only a phase in your relationship and you’re going to be in relationships plenty of times before you’re ready to take stock of what’s gone wrong and start working towards fixing it.
Do you think you’re the one who’s constantly being judged? The one who’s always getting blamed for things? Do you think you’re single and looking for sex? You probably aren’t. Even though you’re probably going to have a harder time getting dates if you’re single, you can still enlist the help of a couple of friends who are single too. This can make the difference in getting laid and ending your relationship.
Keep this in mind, and you’ll be fine. It’s better to be worst than nothing.